you know what's realy quite sad.
a girl sitting on a bed she used to share attempting to play everybody hurts by REM on an out of tune guita
Thursday, September 18, 2008
Sunday, September 7, 2008
parents with ADHD
my mum is fantastic, i believe she is one of the best mums in the world, i can have mock fights with chopsticks with her, she will try to embarrass me for fun, she really cares about me and she is capable of actually understanding me, well more than most people are at any rate.
but there is one thing that does annoy me (well a few but one that directly relates to the genetic disposition to attention deficit disorder) i rarely feel as though i am being listened to. it doesn't sound like a big deal, but when you want to tell your mum something that feels important and she cuts you off mid sentence to ask you about or tell you about something totally unrelated, you just don't feel very listened to. you feel like what you have to say doesn't matter to anyone else, even though it does, or it would if they could keep their mouth shut long enough to hear what it is. and after a several attempts at an explanation it can get so frustration that attempting is cancelled and we resign to the feeling that our opinions don't matter.
still i cant get mad, its not like i never do it, i know she does understand and care, she just gets side tracked by whats in her mind.
i am not going to take it personally, i am just going to ask her "do you want to know what i was talking about?" after i finish answering her question, (as long as its not totally sidetracking) and try to remember not to cut people off about something unrelated unless its important.
i will try to remember that they want to tell me something and that i should be listening to them not my own thoughts. and when i try to do that i will remember how difficult it is, but try to think of how much it may mean to them and do so anyway.
but there is one thing that does annoy me (well a few but one that directly relates to the genetic disposition to attention deficit disorder) i rarely feel as though i am being listened to. it doesn't sound like a big deal, but when you want to tell your mum something that feels important and she cuts you off mid sentence to ask you about or tell you about something totally unrelated, you just don't feel very listened to. you feel like what you have to say doesn't matter to anyone else, even though it does, or it would if they could keep their mouth shut long enough to hear what it is. and after a several attempts at an explanation it can get so frustration that attempting is cancelled and we resign to the feeling that our opinions don't matter.
still i cant get mad, its not like i never do it, i know she does understand and care, she just gets side tracked by whats in her mind.
i am not going to take it personally, i am just going to ask her "do you want to know what i was talking about?" after i finish answering her question, (as long as its not totally sidetracking) and try to remember not to cut people off about something unrelated unless its important.
i will try to remember that they want to tell me something and that i should be listening to them not my own thoughts. and when i try to do that i will remember how difficult it is, but try to think of how much it may mean to them and do so anyway.
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